I’m sure at some point, someone, somewhere wronged you somehow.
I know it has happened to me. There are times when it really hurts, and I think this is especially true if the doer is someone close to you, or seemingly close to you. Sometimes, the hurt or the wrong is just keenly and inherently wrong regardless of whether or not the doer is close to you.
Most of the time, we want some sort of Justice, and Justice can take many forms. A verbal apology. A written apology. Money for replacement if something was taken or stolen or damaged.
Sometimes, however, we confuse Justice with revenge.
Revenge is payback. We want the doer to “hurt” as much as we do or did. We want to doer to suffer like we do or did. And maybe, we might want the doer to suffer even more than we do or did. Seems that way sometimes, doesn’t it?
The confusion between Justice and revenge is real. I think it goes back to our primal urges, that reptilian part of our nature where fight or flight lives (and sometimes, reigns).
Eleanor Roosevelt is one of my heroes. If you don’t know much about her, you might want to do a Google search because she overcame and rose up and in so many ways, contributed to the good of our society, and some of that good is still present with us today.
At any rate, I found a quote this past week that spoke to me. Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Justice cannot be for one side alone, but must be for both.”
Think about that for a minute. Not just one side, but both sides need Justice.
That means when you or I have been wronged, yes, we have a right to expect that there will be Justice done. Yet, for the doer, he or she also needs Justice. Both sides deserve it.
So . . . what might Justice for the doer look like?
Maybe it is as simple as being heard. Maybe the doer explains what happened and why, and offers a sincere apology, makes an effort to “fix” or “repair” the situation. Much different than revenge, right? With revenge, we don’t care about the reason or the feeling. With revenge, we simply want payback, and at times, the more the better.
But with Justice, there is an effort to repair the relationship. To fix it. To understand. Franklin Covey in his book lists Habit #5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
Tough to do sometimes, isn’t it? Sometimes the greater the hurt and the greater the harm, the less we want to understand. As I said earlier, the greater the hurt, we want payback. Justice, well, not so much.
But we are human. As I’ve said many times as I write these posts, we’re in this together. It is a lot easier to join in and be a part of a group, to connect, rather than ostracize. We are stronger together than we are alone. No one likes to be shunned, to be left out. Personally, I’d rather have someone yell at me than give me the silent treatment or to be excluded. To me, silent treatment or exclusion is way more painful than any physical hurt that can be done to me. I think most of us feel that way.
Justice for both. Seeking to understand, then to be understood. Sometimes a lot harder in practice than it is to pay lip service to, isn’t it? But to be understood and to have real Justice- for both- is in the end, much more beneficial for you, for me, and for society as a whole.
Something to think about . . .
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Spiral Into Darkness:
He blends in. He is successful, intelligent and methodical. He has a list and has murdered eight on it so far. There is no discernible pattern. There are no clues. There are no leads. The only thing the FBI and local police have to go on is the method of death: two bullets to the face- gruesome and meant to send a message. But it’s difficult to understand any message coming from a dark and damaged mind. Two adopted boys, struggling in their own world, have no idea they are the next targets. Neither does their family. And neither does local law enforcement. https://amzn.to/2RBWvTm
Caught in a Web:
The bodies of high school and middle school kids are found dead from an overdose of heroin and fentanyl. The drug trade along the I-94 and I-43 corridors and the Milwaukee Metro area is controlled by MS-13, a violent gang originating from El Salvador. Ricardo Fuentes is sent from Chicago to Waukesha to find out who is cutting in on their business, shut it down and teach them a lesson. But he has an ulterior motive: find and kill a fifteen-year-old boy, George Tokay, who had killed his cousin the previous summer.
Detectives Jamie Graff, Pat O’Connor and Paul Eiselmann race to find the source of the drugs, shut down the ring, and find Fuentes before he kills anyone else, especially George or members of his family. The three detectives discover the ring has its roots in a high school among the students and staff. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CKF7696
Book One of the Lives Trilogy, Stolen Lives:
Two thirteen year old boys are abducted off a safe suburban street. Kelliher and his team of FBI agents have 24 hours to find them or they’ll end up like all the others- dead! They have no leads, no clues, and nothing to go on. And the possibility exists that one of his team members might be involved. http://tinyurl.com/Stolen-Lives-J-Lewis
Book Two of the Lives Trilogy, Shattered Lives:
Six men escaped and are out for revenge. The boys, recently freed from captivity, are in danger and so are their families, but they don’t know it. The FBI has no clues, no leads, and nothing to go on and because of that, cannot protect them. http://tinyurl.com/Shattered-Lives-J-Lewis
Book Three of the Lives Trilogy, Splintered Lives:
A 14 year old boy knows the end is coming. What he doesn’t know is when, where or by whom. Without that knowledge, neither he nor the FBI can protect him or his family.
The Lives Trilogy Prequel, Taking Lives:
FBI Agent Pete Kelliher and his partner search for the clues behind the bodies of six boys left in various and remote parts of the country. Even though they don’t know one another, the lives of FBI Kelliher, 11 year old Brett McGovern, and 11 year old George Tokay are separate pieces of a puzzle. The two boys become interwoven with the same thread that Pete Kelliher holds in his hand. The three of them are on a collision course and when that happens, their lives are in jeopardy as each search for a way out. http://tinyurl.com/Taking-Lives-J-Lewis
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